Posts Tagged ‘conscious parenting’

June 15, 2011

Nine Lies about Academic Achievement that Parents and Teachers often Seem to Believe—but Don’t Really.

Why do Americans want one set of things for our children and then behave as if we want another? Parents and teachers I talk to want their children to be self-confident learners who are good at working with others, and they want school to help with this.

Of course we want our children to read, write and learn the language of mathematics, but we want much more, too. We want them to learn the requirements of our family and our society and to become active participants—leaders, actually—in an increasingly democratic world. We want them to grow up with self-discipline, respect for others, critical thinking, self-confidence, resilience, a love of learning, and the internal motivation to make something of themselves. We want them to be people who take responsibility and make a positive difference to others, their community, and the world, …and the world needs people who think creatively—now more than ever.

When it comes to school, however, we often behave as if all we care about is test scores and what colleges our children attend. In urban systems our expectations drop even lower to things like “Our goal is for all students to be at or above grade level.” We are even blind to the obvious fact that such a goal is impossible and self-defeating.

Why? Fear.

When we are confident and courageous, we act as if authenticity matters. We trust the part of us that knows that success and happiness depend on pursuing your own calling and finding your own niche in society. We realize that great colleges are looking for leaders, people who think creatively and make a difference. We, therefore, act as if we believe in the genius of each individual child and encourage them not to lose sight of their own personal mission as they find their fit in society. We create environments at home and at school that value inquiry and are open to the wisdom of silly questions. Achievement is put in its proper place as a subset of learning. We have a sense of humor.

In an atmosphere of fear, however, our minds are taken over as if by an evil empire dominated by a social pyramid where life is a race to the top. In this model it is quite reasonable to be afraid that some children will be left behind. In fact in this model the vast majority of children will be left behind, and only a few will make it to the top—it’s a pyramid, right?

We seem to believe the many myths of this model–lies like:

1. Life is a race to the top
2. Academic achievement is the ticket to the top. (test scores/brandname colleges)
3. It is all about ability, and there are 3 kinds of kids: gifted, normal and those who learn differently.
4. The race starts in kindergarten with kids at ZERO (even though by the time they walk into their first kindergarten classroom and are asked to sit in a circle, they have already been researchers, scientists, detectives and problem-solvers for over 43,000 hours.)
5. You can get a head start by starting the race early: preschool, birth, pre-natal.
6. The sooner you get started in the race, the greater the likelihood you will end up high on the pyramid—and be happy.
7. Parents have the power to get their kids to turn out the way they want them to.
8. Education is about shaping your child or a bit like getting your child through the eye of the needle.
9. Worst of all, academics is something you wouldn’t naturally like, and therefore you have to sacrifice your imagination, your inquisitiveness and your self to get through the eye of the needle to the next level of academic achievement.

When we shift to the dark side we forget that even if all we wanted for students were high test scores, they would still need a fully developed, creative, self-confident, problem-solving brain to get there. We seem to forget that most colleges are looking for creative people who love learning, are good at working with others, and comfortable in their own skin, …and a sense of humor wouldn’t hurt.

We come by the pyramid model honestly. It used to be generally understood that in a competitive world you had to be better than the competition. Today, however, it has become common knowledge in business that the best way to be successful in a competitive world is not to compete. How do you do that? Be unique. Good businesses find their own “hedgehog concept” and their own market niche. Good schools help students find and develop their interests, passions, and loves.

The best way to fight the fear is to see children as they really are. They already have the force within them. All those hopes and dreams we have for our children? Children are already on it—from birth. Even those natural A-type, competitive kids who seem to want to win all the time, can learn that the best way to win AND be happy is to develop your own internal standards.

When home and school change the name of game to nurturing a child’s genius, all kids win. Many of the disciplines of nurturing a child’s genius are spiritual disciplines that free us from our fear.

This article is reprinted courtesy of Rick Ackerly. Thanks Rick!

You can Purchase his book, The Genius in Children: Bringing Out The Best In Your Child on his website.

Did you know that if your adrenals are tired during pregnancy, that your baby’s adrenals will support you both during your third trimester? This will deplete your baby and have negative health implications for your precious child. Please make sure you are resourced and supported so that your adrenals are functioning well–for your health and pleasure as well as for baby’s.

Pregnancy is quite a stressor for many women. A common occurrence, however, is the woman who, upon reaching her third trimester of pregnancy, says that she all of a sudden “feels better than I have felt in years.” This is often the case when the first two trimesters were particularly difficult. The fetus’s adrenal glands mature to the point of being able to produce hormones at about the beginning of the third trimester.

If the mother is in the exhaustion stage of the GAS (adrenal function), it is not uncommon for the baby’s adrenals to try to make enough adrenal hormones for both the baby and the mother. The mother feels great. The baby’s adrenals are really supporting the mother’s adrenals. But the baby’s adrenal glands are being stressed before it is even born!

The results are doubly negative. The baby is born in a state of adrenal depletion and often exhibits symptoms of hypoadrenia. These symptoms may be varied, but two of the more common symptoms are allergies and recurrent infections. During chronic stress states, the thymus and other lymphatic structures atrophy, lowering the capabilities of the body’s immune mechanisms.

http://tuberose.com/Adrenal_Glands.html

Last week I had the distinct privilege and pleasure of conversing with some vibrational children, a 1 year old baby and a 12 year old . The information the guides gave me previously about what they might need is beginning to become real in waking life and it’s compelling. My researcher’s cap is on.

In a session with a baby last week we were able to teach in rapid fire succession much of what it has taken me a lifetime–and many years of training–to master. It was gorgeous and validating and inspiring and so normal, too. The 12 year old needed similar things and is in the tension you may recall from your childhood (I know I do): “I desire to fit in. I am different than most of the other kids. Maybe I should shut out the knowing and the gifts and just be normal.” It was important for her to be seen and to learn how to be both.

This is one of the primary lessons of my own life. As a child, I made the decision to shut it down and it has been my education and purpose to reclaim it so that I may help others do the same, in addition to helping these kids to not make the same choice but to stay connected–they are so very needed. They are here to shift the planet.

These children seem to need to be witnessed and need space for their work and their development.

How can you create and allow this?

Keep your hearts open and listen to them. Believe them. These kids really need your openness, acceptance and your witness for who they are, as well as space for who they are and who they are becoming. I am in awe of you moms and your ability to create a safe loving space for them. Thank you.

As I understand it, we are in the midst of a time of great change and choice. We in a way are crafting our lives as if from scratch. We have an opportunity to create our ideal lives and join the higher flows of potential like never before. But we have to both surrender, which is very much a feminine principle, AND we must take action. We must make choices, set intentions, and align ourselves with the things we do wish to experience and create. Some of this change will be easy, and some more uncomfortable.

I am building the grid for Vibrational Child, the energy templates, that are a part of a paradigm shift on Earth. I am doing this with the guide I work with that I call Oshira, with the other guides and masters that I work with, with the very advanced baby beings who wish to incarnate, and with all souls who are drawn to participate. You, the potential parents, are a big part of this. Oshira asked me to create a container for the rest of the year to offer this steady tone of the new paradigm, and invite the parents of these advanced souls to join us in this creation. We have been working consistently on the inner planes for many months to this purpose and through forms such as private consultations, calls, and the Bring in the Babies transmissions.

This is an important time to bake the pie, so to speak, that you will be eating for the coming years. And so we are offering this stable, high vibrational nutrient rich medium to help you hold the tone steady of your own Divine Blueprint as well as a steady and stable connection with your baby, and an opportunity to harmonize and break down any barriers in your own energy field that might be preventing him or her from reaching you.

These babies are ready to come in now. This is the time they want to start coming in, having started in October and through early next year I think a bunch of them are going to start entering their bodies, the first wave will I think, begin to arrive or begin coming closer to you in preparation.

We want to help you create a clear and illuminated landing strip for them in your own energy body and physical body, so you and they can have a graceful process. The vibrational gap between these kids and most human beings is HUGE from what I can tell. And so, Oshira and the other beings I work with can help act as a bridge for you and your baby. And honestly, the gap looks, feels and sounds big even when I start working with someone who has a lot of energy skill and consciousness. The babies need assistance bridging the gap so that they can come in with their full health and power intact. And I see the impact of these high vibrating babies on their human parents and relationships, seems we need support too.

Know that a key to your harmonious connection with them is through your heart and your willingness to surrender, expand and open. Find us on the inner planes as a support, join one of our groups, play and discover the moment-to-moment pleasure of your life.

What a great way to start the week! My BIB transmission this morning was so much fun for me. I wanted to share a few notes from the session with you because there was this sweetness, expansion, focusing, nourishing yumminess along with a beautiful and important perceptual shift that I wanted you to enjoy vicariously:

And then we shifted and moved to the perspective of the babies, helping them vibrationally match with where THEY are going. This was almost indescribably cool. So for “Jane” as you know, your baby (who is in utero) is withdrawing her awareness from her big spirit where I often work with her and getting more concentrated in her body. She showed me images of when she’s born latching on for breastfeeding and also you holding her feet, welcoming her and helping her to enter fully into her body, welcomed as spirit in her body. We helped her feel safe to let go more, talked a bit about timing, she felt very content to me about the timing.

For you “Susan”, I saw a girl and a boy and they were checking you out and very excited, and we worked on how they can start to entrain more to your rhythms, your frequency, vibration, and matter, and also to your husband’s and to your combined relational tones so that they can find there way to you in form and so that you can conceive and have a healthy, balanced pregnancy.

It was so clear to me in this transmission that the bridge was being built from where all who participated were at the start and to where they are going, and that they are different now. They now embody some of those energies of the “future” and that “future” is now not so far away. Exciting!

Introducing a new product combination I am so excited about! You may have seen on my shop page that I have some guided meditations available. I am in the process of creating .pdf files of all of the journeys and am beginning to produce CDs for you. One of my favorite journeys is called Divine Mothering. It’s a really beautiful, slow, gentle initiation into motherhood. It’s for any woman, or man for that matter, not just for moms.

I recently discovered this wonderful woman in Oregon who creates divinely inspired flower essences. She has an essence called Divine Mothering! I tried her essence and loved it. I felt soft, nourished. Flower essences can be subtle, even for me, yet I instinctively felt connected and supported by this formula.  I emailed her, her name is Camilla and asked her if I could sell her flower essence with my journey, and sent her an mp3 of my Divine Mothering journey. This is what she said:

WOW, Nancy, I had a beautiful experience with your meditation/transmission. Opening. Helping me receive more. Then I took my Divine Mothering formula and was able to release… lovely…I think we can offer a wonderful healing experience Camilla Blossom, 3 Flowers Healing

This will be a lovely holiday gift! If you’d like to pre-order yours please do, I’d be delighted to receive your order. We are still in production however, so please allow a few weeks (2 or maybe 3) for us to get it to you.

Thanks!

I will keep this short and sweet. My intent with the blog is to offer you resources and connections to support you on your path of conscious, inspired parenthood. My intent in all of the work is to serve as a bridge for you and these vibrational children who are so eagerly, persistently (and loudly I might add) communicating with me and joyfully collaborating with me to receive support for their own incarnation and to offer support to you, their parents. They are simply delighted to connect with you and to be heard. And finally, my intention is to serve the global paradigm shift in birthing and parenting that I know is upon us. Please feel free to comment, ask questions, or send topic ideas or questions for my guide Oshira to info@vibrationalchild.com.

Enjoy!